Analyzing body language … and body art
This past weekend I was in Tampa, FL for the US Southern Region Conference. Tonya Reiman opened the conference with “Your body speaks louder than your voice,” sharing her knowledge about body language analysis.
I’m guessing that many of the 200 communicators in attendance have learned about body language. I’d also guess that many of us have advised executives, public figures, or other spokespeople about things like eye contact, hand gestures, arm positioning, posture, etc. But, I think many of us suddenly became much more conscious of our own body language. Not to mention assessing the body language of presenters, old friends, and every person we met throughout the conference.
Clearly, Tonya didn’t intend to provide magic formulas with which we could neatly define and full understand others. But she did mention a non-verbal cue on which I have recently experienced a change in thinking.
When I lived in Utah, I attended a training during which a recruiter cautioned us about visible tattoos, I quickly agreed. Tattoos are unprofessional and communicate “character flaws” in individuals who would willingly and visibly mark their bodies.
Since moving to the Pacific Northwest – land of tattoos – my thinking has changed. My opinion changed because of people I’ve met who helped me redefine the stereotypes that I had previously formed, stored in my mind, and judged tattoo adorned people. I quickly learned that my new acquaintances and friends chose to get tattoos to express their beliefs/passions, individuality, and creativity. Coincidentally, these are characteristics that I look for when hiring.
I’ve also researched cultural tattoo beliefs and practices. Some practices associated with negative circumstances, other with life affirming, granting status, and rite of passage circumstances. Not all tattoos are created equal.
I now understand that I shouldn’t jump to conclusions when I meet a person with a visible tattoo … just as I have learned that I shouldn’t jump to conclusions based on a person’s choice of words/expressions, clothing, accessories, makeup, and hair styles. Visible tattoos provide me opportunities to inquire about intent or meaning. Creative, passionate, or meaningful responses help me get to know more about the individuals.
Sometimes, an old dog can learn new tricks …
Thanks to the US Southern Region conference planning committee, Silver Quill coordinators, and Board members for the learning and networking opportunity!